This morning I put on a pair of jeans that had just been washed and got the, always expected
but never pleasant, snug fit that comes after denim is washed. This is the tight that requires
you to suck in your belly for all you are worth, hoping you don’t fall over or pass out as you
button the top button. Sometimes the jeans get so snug you have to suck in twice – once for
the button and once for the zipper – because holding your breath the full time it would take to
close the jeans brings dots dancing in front of your eyes. This is the fit that is so uncomfortable
you want to just fling the jeans off and put on anything with an elastic waistband. You probably
know what I am talking about and if not…just use your imagination.
I knew that the jeans fit last week, I was pretty sure I hadn’t grown a size in a week,
and so I left the jeans on and went about the business of getting ready for work.
When I was getting into my car I thought, “Hey! These jeans already fit again.”
In less than 15 minutes I had gone from such discomfort I wanted to freak out (my
limbic brain came on and started judging the size of my ass) and tear the jeans
from my body to totally comfortable in the same jeans and looking darn fine too.
It came to me that Neurosculpting® is like this sometimes. When we work to move out dated
stories and limiting beliefs it can feel like we are in a mental vice. It might be the grip of fear
over the change, maybe it is the lack of knowing what you will be like when the story is no
longer your go to story, or maybe it’s a fear you won’t be able to make or keep the change you
want to achieve – it can be many things that make us feel uncomfortable as we Neurosculpt®
And like the jeans, we may want to stop what we are working on, we may want to question
what we are doing, we may feel tense and unsettled during our days, or we may just find we
never have the time to sit down and do the meditations. This is a fear based decision, in my
opinion, if you don’t stop and ask yourself some key questions about what could be going on.
Get curious not scared!
Ask yourself – what is going on? How am I feeling contracted or stressed? Is it related to the
work I am currently doing with Neurosculpting® or is it something else? Is this the best way to
approach my change or do I need to take a different approach to the same end (sometimes we
try and tackle too big of a change and might do better taking on smaller changes to get to the
bigger change). By getting curious you stop the limbic (fear) based thinking and behaviors and
make decisions and set goals from a place of thoughtfulness.
Once you make this shift you will know that you can either wait for your brain to stretch, relax,
and reshape into the change or you can try a new route to the same change. Just like the jeans
– if you give your brain a little time to adapt and stretch you will be shocked to realize that one
day you don’t even remember that the change felt uncomfortable. And you may just realize
that the change looks darn good on you too!
My name is Susan, and I am a Certified Neurosculpting® Facilitator and the Director of Corporate Programs for the Neurosculpting® Institute. I am also a wife, mom, friend to many, a skier, a boxer and according to my dog – a pretty good dog mom!
I believe it is important for potential clients to understand how I came to Neurosculpting®, as it often connects me to you.