I have noticed that I have goals I achieve without blinking an eye and I have goals that I carry around for years that I set and rest time and again. Recently I had a huge learning about a recurring goal of mine.
Some background for you first. I have been on a diet or thinking I have needed to be on a diet for well over 35 years now. I have been too thin and I have been too fat – for my frame and for social norms.
This year I have worked hard to find comfort with food, to create body acceptance, and to discover fun in fitness. And I have made huge progress. In fact, I made so much progress I didn’t catch myself falling into my recurring goal of losing lots of body fat and getting defined muscles. I breezed into starting a strict eating regime and rigorous weekly workout schedule without a pause (ok, I had some red flags that I talked myself into ignoring, but that is part of the pattern). Three weeks into the program I was miserable. I was angry. I was missing my goals. I went from feeling like a rockstar in my body to feeling shame and failure.
What happened!? Well, based on what I know from Neurosculpting® I triggered a neural cycle or a story in my mind from past times I have intensely dieted. And part of this story is that I am doing a diet because I believe my body isn’t right or OK. But also, I know from Neurosculpting® that we have stories and beliefs that drive our actions in life – and this is where my learning really happened.
The truth here is I really have achieved my goal of creating body acceptance. As of now I really don’t want to change my body nor do I think I need to change my body. I am in fact damn proud of this body. It has taken me on hikes across Alaska and up 14,000 foot mountains, it has carried a child, it has fought off many flus, it handles moguls with grace, it takes me through my days, and more. It is my friend. Yet my habit of creating the goal of dieting and exercising into a shape I am not only tells my body that I hate it, I find it wanting, and it needs to be punished. And I just don’t believe that anymore.
And because I don’t believe that I need to achieve this goal, my amazing brain keeps me from achieving it. And I have to say I am glad that what I learned in failing to meet my goal was that I didn’t ever really care if I made it, because I am more than good enough as I am now.
If you have goals that you keep trying to achieve – doing more chores instead of crosswords, losing weight, going to college – these are all wonderful goals, but before you begin check in with yourself to see if you really want the goal. And if you do, check out how you can set yourself up for success by listening to Lisa Wimberger’s class “The Neurobiology of Goal Setting and Motivation” at The Neurosculpting® Institutes website — https://neurosculptinginstitute.com/product/the-neurobiology-of-goal-setting-motivation-1-5-hour-course/
Oh also, I changed my brain around body image and dieting with the following Neurosculpting® classes:
Learning to Love Your Body Meditation – https://neurosculptinginstitute.com/product/learning-to-love-your-body/
Foundational Neurosculpting® – https://neurosculptinginstitute.com/product/neurosculpting-for-beginners-audio-class-3-hours/
Changing Your Relationship to Addictions & Habits – https://neurosculptinginstitute.com/product/changing-relationship-addictions-habits-3-part-audio-series/
My name is Susan, and I am a Certified Neurosculpting® Facilitator and the Director of Corporate Programs for the Neurosculpting® Institute. I am also a wife, mom, friend to many, a skier, a boxer and according to my dog – a pretty good dog mom!
I believe it is important for potential clients to understand how I came to Neurosculpting®, as it often connects me to you.