If you are fully conscious of putting out a love language to others – let’s say your husband’s love language is “acts of service”- you would start unloading the dishwasher and picking up dinner. That’s where he’s going to feel a surge of love direct from you. That’s HIS love language. Maybe your love language is “words of affirmation” and he could return this practice with praise – “good job honey”, “you look great today”, “I’m so proud and grateful for you”. Please take caution; we tend to often give to others what our OWN love language is, so really tune into your partner to best discover his or herneeds. If you’re not sure of his or her or your own, experiment; see what feels best.
Now, we are getting ahead of ourselves. Today we are focusing on self love, so we are able to come from a place of fullness when giving to others and attempting to use love languages in relationships. First, let’s discover and apply these languages to ourselves. For example; If you know your language is “words of affirmations”, what are you giving yourself?
Are you saying:
“I’m a bad ass.”
“I’m a really great mom.”
“I look amazing today.”
If not, you are doing yourself a total disservice. If you’re telling yourself:
“I coulda been so much better with the kids today.”
“My ass looks fat in those pants.”
“I am totally tired and have no energy for anything.”
If soare telling yourself the complete opposite of what you are needing, the complete opposite of what can support you in thriving. Through negative self talk you are not able to engage peacefully with yourself.
Our words matter, our actions matter, our time matters, and our commitments matter to OTHERS and OURSELVES. Before we can get to the point where we can effectively support and give to others we must first tune into us. If we don’t we are coming from a place of disempowerment, a place of drained energy, a place we cannot help others or help ourselves.
Take a minute and do some research on the 5 love languages, find yours, and implement it in your world. Notice today all the times you show up, notice when you have given yourself credit in the ways you need, and take time and recognize you for you.
5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
My name is Susan, and I am a Certified Neurosculpting® Facilitator and the Director of Corporate Programs for the Neurosculpting® Institute. I am also a wife, mom, friend to many, a skier, a boxer and according to my dog – a pretty good dog mom!
I believe it is important for potential clients to understand how I came to Neurosculpting®, as it often connects me to you.